Especially at this time of year, everyone is setting goals for this new year and this new decade. We are setting intentions of what we want to achieve or accomplish, what we want to do and solidifying our visions for this next year.
Amazing - don’t stop doing that!
Here’s what I want you to consider, though….you can set goals and a vision for yourself, but also be somewhat unattached to them.
You need a certain level of attachment otherwise you become complacent and there’s nothing motivating you to push forward. But it’s in those times where you are disappointed, where things don’t get done, where things go astray, when those goals and milestones don’t get reached, when the path pivots in a new direction - in those times, practice non-attachment. Because here’s the truth; it’s not a disappointment or failure when something doesn’t get done. You either didn’t focus on it or there’s a greater reason why it wasn’t meant to be right now.
Make 2020 the year of non-attachment.
Don’t tie your happiness and your self-love in external factors either happening or not happening; because while there are so many things we can control in life, there are 100 times more things that we can not control. Things are going to get taken away from you and things will get given to you; great things will happen and shitty things will happen. You need to trust in something bigger than yourself that the things that are handed to you are working FOR you, for your greater purpose. Things come into your life (good and bad) to teach you and guide you. Things leave your life to allow space for other things to enter in.
Let go of the attachment. If you’re forcing something to happen this year, you need to let it go. Let go of the resistance and allow things to flow the way they are supposed to so that you can sit back and enjoy your life more instead of trying to control and force every situation that you “think” you want and need to have happen. Throw things out there, set your goals and work towards them, but don’t be so attached to them that you end up feeling like a failure when they aren’t met or you feel like a flake because you change your mind or pivot your vision.
This process has been a game changer for me over this last year; I am having fun with this process of just seeing where things take me and not being overly attached to things. I trust that if things leave, it’s to make space for other things to enter. If things don’t work out, it’s because I was meant to learn a lesson. I am living in a no-forcing-zone this year.
Practice stepping into more non-attachment this year and I know you will feel so differently about your goals and your life. What got you here, won’t get you there; if you would like some individualized coaching to help get you to that next level, fill out this form to see how you can work with me.